+ When is the right time to seek marriage counseling or relationship counseling?

Researcher, Dr. John Gottman found that the average couple waits six years before seeking help for marriage problems. Combine this with the fact that 50% of all marriages don’t last eight years and you can see that getting help as soon as marriage problems arise is important.

Bottom line: if your Relationship isn’t making you as happy as it once was, now is the time to seek marriage counseling.

+ Are you going to tell me what to do? Will you tell me if I should stay in a relationship or leave?

As your relationship therapists, we are here to help you to sort out your thoughts and feelings so you gain the clarity to make decisions that will make you feel better. We won’t tell you what to do. We will help you and your partner understand what is not working and teach you skills to get the relationship that you want. We can help you to get from where you are to where you want to be.

+ What If I am interested in coming in for couples therapy but my partner is not?

That is actually totally normal and quite common that not both partners are ready to do couples therapy and marriage counseling. Many of our clients start the process themselves and still improve their relationship. It is a scary and difficult step to come into a stranger's office and share all your private matters. Starting couples therapy and marriage counseling takes a lot of courage. However, you won't see any changes without taking any steps. Fortunately, our evidence and research based modalities and YY Wei's use of Michele Weiner - Davis' approach, Divorce Busting: A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, have shown results. You can call us at (720) 660-2321 or Contact Us to get your 15 min free consultation about Marriage Counseling & Couples Therapy. You will get a chance to interview us to determine your comfort level with us and get all your questions answered.

+ My partner is afraid that you'll take my side and criticize/attack them.

It is common for couples to have that concern. The reality is that that is not how couples therapy and marriage counseling works. Your friends and families, maybe even some strangers you've talked to, may have created more conflict and tension. Our role is to be the unbiased, third party that helps both of you to be on the same page as an united front against the problems and the setbacks. We help the two of you as a team to identify ways to move forward. As trained Denver Marriage Counselors & Couples Therapists, we will work with you to optimize your relationship instead of repeating the same, old pattern. We are open to feedback too if you feel like we are taking sides. You can also invite your partner to learn more About Us. We totally welcome your partner to interview us via a phone call or a message. We want both of you to feel comfortable.

+ I talk to my partner, and he/she just does not want to talk to anyone.

No worries. You can still get help having Couples Therapy for One. You and your partner are part of your relationship system. What we know and have seen is that it is totally possible to create positive changes in a relationship with one partner learning new, clear, concrete strategies. YY Wei, LCSW, has also trained with Michele Weiner - Davis, who is the Director of The Divorce Busting® Center. Michele is all about action based approach. Michele's modality and her book, Divorce Busting: A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, all show that a relationship could be saved with just one partner's desire and effort to make a change. Denver Marriage Counseling & Couples Therapy can help you change the dynamic even just with you in the office.

+ Why Therapy? Shouldn't I be able to get better on my own?

No doubt that you have already tried many things to make things better. You certainly have inner resources to handle the situation on your own. Therapy is just another way to learn more tools to add on to your toolbox so you get more ideas and skills to get relief from stress, depression, anxiety and relationship struggles.

+ What if there has been an affair? Can therapy still be helpful?

One of our specialities in the practice is helping couples recover and heal from affairs. It is possible to recover after an affair. Trust can still be built. It can actually be a powerful tool to understand what didn't work in the relationship. The journey however, would be panful and difficult. We will be there with you to help build trust, repair the relationship and move forward. Here's an article about how infidelity can be a new and better beginning of a relationship.

Infidelity: Psychotherapist Esther Perel on how an affair doesn't have to be the end

+ Do you work with other issues besides relationships?

Yes! We are here to help anyone who is struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, grief and loss, self-esteem, body image issues, loss of life direction and identity, and emotional dysregulation in any capacity. Our goal is simple – We want you and your loved ones to feel better.

+ Do you work with people who are not married or in a relationships?

Absolutely! We work with both individuals and married and unmarried couples. The goal of therapy is to learn new skills to cope with whatever life brings so you feel better. Plus, part of being in a relationship is you have to do your own work as you are half of the dynamic. If you are thinking about doing individual work, you are already ahead of the game when you enter a relationship.

+ Do you work with same-sex couples and mixed-orientation couples?

Yes, we do work with same–sex couples and mixed-orientation couples. Everyone deserves to have the relationship that they want and a satisfying sex life.

+ Do you work with alternative life or relationship styles?

Yes. We work with couples and individual of all relational orientations (including LGBTQIA) to manage the stress and conflicts that affect their relationships.

+ Why don't you accept insurance?

• In using health insurance to cover counseling for individuals and couples, the therapist will typically have to diagnose one of you with a mental health disorder. The Relationship Center of Colorado does not believe that coming in for therapy to get help and support so you can get the life and the relationship that you want is considered problematic and a mental health disorder. That is not marriage counseling, couples therapy, sex therapy, and/or individual therapy. Our primary focus is on your relationship with yourself and your relationship with your loved one. We want you to flourish and move forward, and your relationship to bring in happiness and satisfaction. Diagnoses are secondary and quite frankly unethical to label a life event as a "disorder."

• It is a real risk to label one of the partners as the “patient” as that will unbalance the treatment and pathologize the partner. Couples issues are couples issues! They are issues happened in the dynamic that the both of you have to address together and both actively take responsibility and make changes on your part.

• A diagnosis says nothing about who you are, how you cope, what your strengths are, and which of the many symptoms you actually have. A diagnosis however, could negatively impact your eligibility for things and job searching.

• You lose full confidentiality of your information, which means you lose control over who and what they get to see about you. This means that when you apply for new health insurance, life insurance, and many types of job, they can require an authorization to release information to view your entire medical record. With health care reform, being denied coverage due to a preexisting condition is thankfully less of an issue, however, companies can charge much higher premiums because of having ever been treated for a mental health issue.

+ Therapy is so expensive. How can I justify spending so much?

• Therapy is expensive. That is why we are committed to keeping it focused and getting to the root of the problem. Did you know that the average cost for a divorce in the USA is $15,000 - Therapy is a lot cheaper! Plus, you learn concrete skills to have a healthier, better, stronger, more vibrant, and more fulfilling marriage and life. Therapy is an investment that is hard to put a price tag on. People spend money on buying healthy, food, joining health clubs, and getting prescription drugs for their needs. Your emotional needs are more important than any other needs so don’t stop yourself from getting the life and the relationship that you want. Call us at (720) 660–2321 to start feeling better!

+ YY Wei, MSW, LCSW, CST - Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Sex Therapy, Couples Retreat, Marathon Individual & Couples Counseling

The fee during normal office hours (Mondays-Fridays: 8:30am-2:15pm) is $325 for 50 min whether in person, or any other form of communication.

YY Wei’s non-office hours, holiday and weekend rate is $375 for 50 min.

Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the beginning or the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged.

For more information about doing Couples Retreat or Marathon Individual and Couples Counseling with YY Wei, or any other questions about services provided at The Relationship Center of Colorado, please call (720) 660-2321 or email us for more information.

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Structure of Therapy with YY Wei

• My standard rate for a counseling session during normal office hours (Mondays-Fridays: 8:30am-2:15pm) is $325 for 50 min whether in person, or any other form of communication.

• My fee for non-office hours, holiday and weekend sessions is $375 for 50 min whether in person, or any other forms of communication.

• My first 4 sessions with my couples are 100 minutes per session. The reason I do the following format is because I want to do a thorough assessment and gather as much information as possible to guide my therapeutic work with you and you partner. I want to use however much hope and motivation that’s still there to maximize the possibility of repairing the relationship.

1. The 1st session, I will meet with both you and your partner for 100 minutes ($650) to gather relationship history, events and dynamics that have led up to where you guys currently are.

2. The 2nd session, I will meet with one of you for 100 minutes ($650) to gather information about that partner.

3. The 3rd session, I will meet with the other partner for 100 minutes ($650) to gather information about that partner.

4. At the end of the 3rd session, the therapist will send out an online couples assessment through The Gottman Institute, and you will be responsible for the cost ($39) of the assessment. When both of you finish your assessment, the therapist will get a notification that the assessment is ready for her to review and analyze about your relationship. The therapist will spend 100 minutes ($650) on it.

5. At the 4th session, we will all meet together again for 100 minutes ($650). This will be our review session based on our face to face sessions. We will have a discussion of how we want to continue therapy and develop our initial action plan.

6. After the 4th session, you and your partner can decide if you want to meet for my standard 50 min session, or longer session. The standard rate for a counseling session with me is $325 for 50 min.

7. Most of my couples have found starting with weekly 100 min to be more effective. Once they become more stable because they have learned and practiced the healthier relationship skills outside of my office, we talk and decrease the frequency and duration of our therapy sessions. As your therapist, I will give your my thoughts but you and your partner get to decide what works the best for your relationship and your financial planning.

Please Note

• Rates are based having sessions during normal office hours (Mondays-Fridays: 8:30am-2:15pm). YY Wei's standard rate for a counseling session during normal office hours (Mondays-Fridays: 8:30am-2:15pm) is $325 for 50 min whether in person, or any other form of communication.

• YY Wei’s non-office hours, holiday and weekend rate is $375 for 50 min whether in person, or any other forms of communication.

• You and your partner can choose not to follow the above structure as you are the consumers. YY Wei, as the therapist, will decide if she feels comfortable giving therapeutic inputs and working with you without gathering relevant information for treatment.

• Payments can be made via cash, check, HSA, and credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover). We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

• If you choose to use credit, debit cards, or HSA cards for payment, a 3.5% service charge will be added to the charges for therapy.

+ Margaret Kapitan, MS, MFTC - Denver & Lakewood Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

• The standard rate with Margaret for a counseling session is $190 for 50 min whether in person, or any other forms of communication.

• Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged.

• Payments can be made via cash, check, HSA, and credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover). We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

• If you choose to use credit, debit cards, or HSA cards for payment, a 3.5% service charge will be added to the charges for therapy.

+ Jacob (Jake) Booth, MA, MFCT - Denver & Lakewood Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

• The standard rate with Jake for a counseling session is $190 for 50 min whether in person, or any other forms of communication.

• Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged.

• Payments can be made via cash, check, HSA, and credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover). We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

• If you choose to use credit, debit cards, or HSA cards for payment, a 3.5% service charge will be added to the charges for therapy.

+ Giovani Casseus, MS, LPCC - Denver & Lakewood Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

• The standard rate with Giovani for a counseling session is $155 for 50 min whether in person, or any other forms of communication.

• Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged.

• Payments can be made via cash, check, HSA, and credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover). We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

• If you choose to use credit, debit cards, or HSA cards for payment, a 3.5% service charge will be added to the charges for therapy.

+ Lacey Davidson, MFT Intern - Denver & Lakewood Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling

• The standard rate with Lacey for a counseling session is $125 for 50 min whether in person, or any other forms of communication.

• Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged.

• Payments can be made via cash, check, HSA, and credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover). We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

• If you choose to use credit, debit cards, or HSA cards for payment, a 3.5% service charge will be added to the charges for therapy.