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What’s Up with Male Masturbation Stigma?

Male masturbation, toys, stigma. Women have had a diverse market of magic wands, vibrators, dildos, clit suckers, and everything in between and beyond. For men, their options have been slightly more limited and come with much more judgment, though we have started making strides!

Take the Fleshlight for example. How many times have you seen or heard someone commenting on a man having or using a Fleshlight? Up until recently, the majority of adult toy companies have been run by men, but that’s changing. With that, the male masturbation stigma is also changing, but it’s still a work in progress. 

Let’s dive right in, men shouldn’t feel ashamed for masturbating and they definitely shouldn’t feel embarrassed or stigmatized for using a toy to support the good cause. Sex toys are wonderful, they help us feel things we didn’t know we could feel and discover ways our bodies like to be touched. We’ve said it before in other blogs, but masturbation is a very important part of both individual and partnered intimacy.

So Why Should Men Use Sex Toys? 

  1. Better health: More orgasms for men leads to better prostate health

  2. Better sexual health: Exploring your body can lead to wonderful discoveries and even more sexual pleasure

  3. Better Partnered Intimacy: Knowing your body better means you can explore what makes you feel good with your partner, leading to sexual wellness and excitement together.

The most popular kinds of male sex toys include…

Cock Rings: Cock rings are small, stretchy rings that are placed around the base of the penis. These rings help restrict blood flow and create longer-lasting erections. 

Vibrating Cock Rings: Similar to the basic cock ring, vibrating cock rings increase pleasure and stimulation resulting in a more intense orgasm. 

Male Masturbators: A great example of a male masturbator is the fleshlight, it’s a sleeve that the penis is inserted into to simulate PIV intercourse. The sleeves can come in different textures, shapes, depths, circumferences, etc., and can be removed for easy cleaning. 

Vibrating Male Masturbators: These are the same as the basic male masturbators, but as vibrating cock rings, they provide increased pleasure and stimulation for a more intense orgasm. 

Prostate Massagers: Prostate massages and orgasms are still undiscovered sensations for a lot of men. Prostate massagers are specifically shaped and designed to hit your prostate. Oftentimes, men can easily have full-body orgasms by stimulating this part of their body. 

It’s 2023 and the adult sex toy industry is on the rise, now catering to all gender, sexualities, relationships, and bodies. We have more and more genderless toys arriving on the market and stigma is decreasing slowly but steadily. If your male friend or partner ever seems uncertain about using a toy for their body, encourage them and let them know it’s completely normal and can result in some mind-blowing experiences and orgasms!

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