When is the right time to seek marriage counseling or relationship counseling?

  • Researcher, Dr. John Gottman found that the average couple waits six years before seeking help for marriage problems. Combine this with the fact that 50% of all marriages don’t last eight years and you can see that getting help as soon as marriage problems arise is important.

Bottom line: if your Relationship isn’t making you as happy as it once was, now is the time to seek marriage counseling.

Are you going to tell me what to do? Will you tell me if I should stay in a relationship or leave?

  • As your relationship therapists, we are here to help you to sort out your thoughts and feelings so you gain the clarity to make decisions that will make you feel better. We won’t tell you what to do. We will help you and your partner understand what is not working and teach you skills to get the relationship that you want. We can help you to get from where you are to where you want to be.

What If I am interested in coming in for couples therapy but my partner is not?

"My partner is afraid that you would take my side and get criticized and attacked."

  • It is common for couples to have that concern. The reality is that that is not how couples therapy and marriage counseling work. Your friends and families, or maybe even some strangers you have talked, might have already done that, and that have only created more conflicts and tension. Our role is to be the unbiased, third party that helps both of you to be on the same page as an united front against the problems and the setbacks. We help the two of you as a team to identify ways to move forward. As trained Denver Marriage Counselors & Couples Therapists, we will work with you to optimize your relationship instead of repeating the same, old pattern. We are open to feedbacks too if you feel like we are taking sides. You can also invite your partner to learn more About Us. We totally welcome your partner to interview us via a phone call or a message. We want both of you to feel comfortable.

"I talk to my partner, and he/she just does not want to talk to anyone."

  • No worries. You can still get help having Couples Therapy For One. You and your partner are part of your relationship system. What we know and have seen is that it is totally possible to create positive changes in a relationship with one partner learning new, clear, concrete strategies. YY Wei, LCSW, has also trained with Michele Weiner - Davis, who is the Director of The Divorce Busting® Center. Michele is all about action based approach. Michele's modality and her book, Divorce Busting: A Step-By-Step Approach to Making Your Marriage Loving Again, all show that a relationship could be saved with just one partner's desire and effort to make a change. Denver Marriage Counseling & Couples Therapy can help you change the dynamic even just with you in the office.

Why Therapy? Shouldn't I be able to get better on my own?

  • No doubt that you have already tried many things to make things better. You certainly have inner resources to handle the situation on your own. Therapy is just another way to learn more tools to add on to your toolbox so you get more ideas and skills to get relief from stress, depression, anxiety and relationship struggles.

What if there has been an affair? Can therapy still be helpful?

  • One of our specialities in the practice is helping couples recover and heal from affairs. It is possible to recover after an affair. Trust can still be built. It can actually be a powerful tool to understand what didn't work in the relationship. The journey however, would be panful and difficult. We will be there with you to help build trust, repair the relationship and move forward. Here's an article about how infidelity can be a new and better beginning of a relationship.

Do you work with other issues besides relationships?

  • Yes! We are here to help anyone who is struggling with stress, anxiety, depression, grief and loss, self-esteem, body image issues, loss of life direction and identity, and emotional dysregulation. Our goal is simple – We want you and your loved ones to feel better.

Do you work with people who are not married or in a relationships?

  • Absolutely! We work with both individuals and married and unmarried couples. The goal of therapy is to learn new skills to cope with whatever life brings so you feel better. Plus, part of being in a relationship is you have to do your own work as you are half of the dynamic. If you are thinking about doing individual work, you are already ahead of the game when you enter a relationship.

Do you work with same-sex couples and mixed-orientation couples? 

  • Yes, we do work with same–sex couples and mixed-orientation couples. Everyone deserves to have the relationship that they want and a satisfying sex life.

Do you work with alternative life or relationship styles?

  • Yes. We work with couples and individual of all relational orientations (including LGBTQIA) to manage their stress and conflicts that affect their relationships.

What is the structure of couples therapy/marriage counseling with YY Wei?

  • Very good question. I am so glad that you asked this question because I wanted you to ask questions to be an informed consumer and know what you are getting yourself into. My standard rate for a counseling session is $200 min for 50 min if payment is made via credit card.

  • My first 4 sessions with my couples are 2 hours per session. The reason I do the following format is because I want to do a thorough assessment and gather as much information as possible to guide my therapeutic work with you and you partner. Most couples that come to see me have been stuck for quite a while so hope and motivation in the relationship tend to be low. It is common that one of the partner is ready to file for divorce or ready to leave. I want to use however much hope and motivation that are still there to maximize the possibility of repairing the relationship.

  1. The 1st session, I will meet with both you and your partner for 2 hours ($480) to gather relationship history, events and dynamics that have led up to where you guys currently are.

  2. The 2nd session, I will meet with one of you for 2 hours ($480) to gather information about that partner.

  3. The 3rd session, I will meet with the other partner for 2 hours ($480) to gather information about that partner.

  4. At the end of the 3rd session, I will send out an online couples assessment through The Gottman Institute, and you will be responsible for the cost ($29) of the assessment. (You can find more information about it here: The Gottman Relationship Check Up). When both of you finish your assessment, I will get a notification that the assessment is ready for me to review and analyze about your relationship. I will spend 2 billable hours ($480) on it.

  5. At the 4th session, we will all meet together again for 2 hours ($480). This will be our review session of the assessment results based on our face to face sessions and The Gottman Relationship Check Up assessment. We will have a discussion of how we want to continue therapy and develop our initial action plan.

  6. After the 4th session, you and your partner can decide if you want to meet for my standard 50 min session, or longer session. The standard rate for a counseling session with me is $200 for 50 min if payment is made via credit card.

  7. Most of my couples have found weekly 90 min to 120 min session to start with to be more effective. Once they become more stable because they have learned and practiced the healthier relationship skills outside of my office, we talk and decrease the frequency and duration of our therapy sessions. As your therapist, I will give your my thoughts but you and your partner get to decide what works the best for your relationship and your financial planning.

Please note: Rates are based having sessions during normal office hours (Monday through Friday from 10-5pm). YY Wei's standard rate for a counseling session during normal office hours (Monday through Friday from 10-5pm) is $200 min for 50 min.

Please note: You and your partner can choose not to follow the above structure as you are the consumers. YY Wei, as the therapist, will decide if she feels comfortable giving therapeutic inputs and working with you without gathering relevant information for treatment. 

Please note: Payments can be made via cash, check, HSA, and credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover). We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

What are you rates & payment for your services?

Free Consultation

  • We invite you to contact us to schedule a free (no-pressure/no-obligation) 15 min initial phone consultation to get to know one another, discuss your concerns, and answer any questions you have, so we can get a better understanding of how we could best work together.

Please Note: Scheduling a free 15-minute initial phone consultation, also requires a credit card; your credit card will only be charged the full price of your scheduled session if you do not show-up or cancel your appointment less than 48-hours in advanced. You will not be charged if you do not show up or cancel your free 15-min initial phone consultation.

Rates and Payment

  • YY Wei, MSW, LCSW - Couples Therapy, Marriage Counseling, Sex Therapy, Couples Retreat, Marathon Individual & Couples Counseling

The fee during normal office hours (Monday through Friday from 10-5pm) is $200 per 50-minute session whether in person, or any other form of communication.

Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the beginning or the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged. 

For more information about doing Couples Retreathaving Non-Office Hour sessions or Weekend sessions with YY Wei, or any other questions about services provided at The Relationship Center of Colorado, please call (720) 660-2321 or email us for more information.

The standard rate with Shaun and Carol for a counseling session is $145 for 50 min. 

Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged. 

The standard rate with Carol for a counseling session is $125 for 50 min.

Longer sessions available and fees will be prorated. Full payment for each session is expected at the end of the therapy session unless other arrangement shave been previously arranged. 

Payments with all the therapists can be made via cash, check, credit card (VISA, MasterCard, American Express, or Discover), or PayPal. We do not work directly with insurance providers, accept insurance, or file claims for insurance reimbursement. However, we are happy to provide you with a super bill for you to submit to your insurance company/healthcare plan (e.g., out of network, flexible/health spending account, etc.) for possible reimbursement.

Why don't you accept insurance?

  • In using health insurance to cover counseling for individuals and couples, the therapist will typically have to diagnose one of you with a mental health disorder. The Relationship Center of Colorado does not believe that coming in for therapy to get help and support so you can get the life and the relationship that you want is considered problematic and a mental health disorder. That is not marriage counseling, couples therapy, sex therapy, and/or individual therapy. Our primary focus is on your relationship with yourself and your relationship with your loved one. We want you to flourish and move forward, and your relationship to bring in happiness and satisfaction. Diagnoses are secondary and quite frankly unethical to label a life event as a "disorder."

  • It is a real risk to label one of the partners as the “patient” as that will unbalance the treatment and pathologize the partner. Couples issues are couples issues! They are issues happened in the dynamic that the both of you have to address together and both actively take responsibility and make changes on your part.

  • A diagnosis says nothing about who you are, how you cope, what your strengths are, and which of the many symptoms you actually have. A diagnosis however, could negatively impact your eligibility for things and job searching.

  • You lose full confidentiality of your information, which means you lose control over who and what they get to see about you. This means that when you apply for new health insurance, life insurance, and many types of job, they can require an authorization to release information to view your entire medical record. With health care reform, being denied coverage due to a preexisting condition is thankfully less of an issue, however, companies can charge much higher premiums because of having ever been treated for a mental health issue.

Therapy is so expensive. How can I justify spending so much?

  • Therapy is expensive. That is why I am committed to keeping it focused and getting to the root of the problem. But did you know that the average cost for a divorce in the US is $15,000! Therapy is a lot cheaper! Plus, you learn concrete skills to have a healthier, better, stronger, more vibrant, and more fulfilling marriage and life. Therapy is an investment that is hard to put a price tag on. People spend money on buying healthy, food, joining health clubs, and getting prescription drugs for their needs. Your emotional needs are more important than any other needs so don’t stop yourself from getting the life and the relationship that you want. Call us at (720) 660–2321 to start feeling better!

How do I get started?

  • Excellent! Here are your options,

SCHEDULE AN APPOINTMENT

If you are interested in working together and would like additional information before scheduling an appointment, please use the form to contact us via email. You can also call (720) 660-2321.

To work with YY Wei, please log in to schedule a new appointment or manage an existing appointment–appointments for individual and couple/relationship counseling, as well as an initial consultation can all be scheduled online (credit card required). You can also call (720) 660-2321 or email her at yy@ColoradoRelationshipTherapy.com to schedule a new appointment or manage an existing appointment.

To work with Shaun Hutto, please call (720) 507-8956 or email him at shaun@ColoradoRelationshipTherapy.com to schedule a new appointment or manage an existing appointment.

To work with Carol Mascarenhas, please log in to schedule a new appointment or manage an existing appointment–appointments for individual and couple/relationship counseling, as well as an initial consultation can all be scheduled online (credit card required). You can also call (720) 507-3949 or email her at carol@ColoradoRelationshipTherapy.com to schedule a new appointment or manage an existing appointment. 

Please Note: Scheduling a free 15-minute initial phone consultation, also requires a credit card; your credit card will only be charged the full price of your scheduled session if you do not show-up or cancel your appointment less than 48-hours in advanced. You will not be charged if you do not show up or cancel your free 15-min initial phone consultation.